How to resolve issues with families & close friends.

Resolving issues with families and/or close friends is one of the hardest thing to ever do because so much emotions is at stake. We love that much and when things go south it hurts that much because so much time has been vested in the relationship. Let us remember that this too shall pass.

 

 It all comes down to communication and really mastering the skills to get your point across. Typically when ever there is a drift, it is either a communication break down or lack of communication.So take time to figure out as to why you are where you are. If there is a break down, the only think you can do is apologize for your part and moving forward just take time to listen more than you talk. After all they do say that communication is 99% listening and 1% speaking. If the latter is the case, (lack of communication) then it is wise to call a meeting and begin talks before it is to late. The last thing you want on your hands is damaged goods hence regrets. My friend, Catch the train before it leaves.

When all else fails, Rick Warren, a pastor/author of "The purpose Driven Life" gives a very powerful advice. Simply put in his book,

1) take your problems to God. Most of the time, we internalize it, confide in others, gossip and/or spend countless hours debating and arguing our point but along the way, relationships have turned sour. I think if we can pray about it, most of the time, God does show us the way, at least hints on what to do or what to say next (He will change your heart)

 2) Always take initiative. Ego is the only reason that stops us from finding amicable immediate results fast. Time is of an essence otherwise resentment deepens. If only, one person took the high road, results will follow depending on whether you come in peace

3) Attack the problem not the person. It is very hard to do but try. Be kind and tactful. It will pay off even if you are too dumb and cocky to see it.

4) Focus on reconciliation vs resolution. I think if we can just approach the person positively and work at rekindling damaged spirits eventually that will open up the door to solutions so both parties can inevitably find resolution. When, things just don’t make sense, stay cool, calm & collected and once you arrest your bad nerves eventually your mind will trigger the physical manifestation to do what is right.

We all should pick our battles. In fact sometimes ask yourself, is it worth it, in fighting and winning the argument or loosing the relationship that you once had?